dream living

Someone I know ends every conversation with the statement, “Living the Dream.” He says this with a tinge of sarcasm and with his tongue in his cheek. But it started me thinking about the deeper meaning of that statement.

Are you “living the dream”?

To be able to answer that question with a resounding “yes” you first have to crystalize your dream and then find a way to realize it.

Henry David Thoreau captured this idea in his quote “If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.”

So, sarcasm aside, what does it mean to have a dream and to actually be living it?

It has been said that there are two types of people in the world – the dreamers and the realists. Is there not the possibility of being both?


To be a dreamer is to be filled with inspiration and vision of how you want your life to be. Asking yourself questions about the future –  “In 5 years what do I want my life to look like?”  Dreamers often don’t have a set plan on how they will achieve their hopes.

To be a realist the answer to this question would not be a vague notion of a nebulous image but rather a solid construct of your heart’s desire with a formula on how to get there.  For example, setting and following a budget so that you are able to take a dream vacation.

Are you a dreamer or a realist?

Life has its ups and downs. The important thing is to recognize how you meet your goals. What actions do you take to help yourself “live the dream?”

Are you a person who starts many things but does not finish them? Or do you tend to stick so rigidly to a plan that any derailment leaves you feeling hopeless?

There is no right or wrong answer. However, you must ask yourself what the right answer is for you. The best solution is the one that will help you feel fulfilled by your decisions in life, regardless of the labels that anyone puts on your pursuit of living the dream.







Dr. Ines K. RoeDr. Ines K. Roe has been helping women in transition rediscover themselves for over 20 years. If you’ve been feeling unfulfilled, are frustrated with your sense of accomplishment in midlife, or simply need guidance on your path to holistic well being, join her e-course..